HOW SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE OVERCOME STRESS
those who believe that they can make it happen, and those who believe that everything happens on their own.
Those in the first group are convinced that their lives and careers are in their own hands, and for them it is unthinkable.
University of Florida psychologist Tim Judge and his colleagues have clearly shown that people who have a sense of control over the events in their lives and are confident in their abilities outperform people who believe that events control them on nearly every key job skill measure.
In these studies, these individuals were present to:
1. Make more sales
2. To provide better customer satisfaction
3. Adapt better to new assignments
4. Average 50% to 150% increase in annual revenue
In Both Good and Bad Times
In good times, of course, almost all of us believe we have the world by the tail. What makes the people in the aforementioned group special is that they don’t feel helpless and exhausted when things go wrong.
Just like you, these people feel intense stress and anxiety during difficult times, but they know how to use it differently and turn it into an advantage. Because they believe they have control over what happens to them in their lives, their anxiety feeds their passions rather than despair.
These people refuse to raise a white flag when they get rejected in job interviews or find themselves at odds with their bottom line income. Instead, they redouble their efforts.
How Do They Succeed?
The people in the first group manage to outperform the others because being able to stay calm under pressure and having the ability to control your emotions are two things that are directly related to your performance. A large-scale study of over one million people found that 90% of the most successful people have the ability to manage their emotions to stay calm and in control in times of stress.
Worry is an absolutely necessary emotional state. Our brains are programmed to take action when we feel a certain level of anxiety or stress. Indeed, our performance peaks at moments of moderate anxiety. Lack of anxiety can lead to distress and depression. Strong anxiety, on the other hand, can leave us completely exhausted and exhausted.
Decreased self-control is also frightening, as it can affect brain functions that can contribute to the emergence of chronic diseases such as hypertension and diabetes. Moreover, it does not end here. Stress is also closely linked to obesity, depression and decreased cognitive performance.
How will you succeed?
If you don’t have the tools to keep your anxiety under control when it starts boiling, you will never know your full potential.
However, it is possible that you will become more and more successful in managing the anxiety that you inevitably feel in difficult and uncertain situations. You just have to follow the steps below to ensure that successful people don’t give in to anxiety.
The key thing to understand before you begin is that you will always have to face the uncertainty. What your future will bring has not yet been decided. How the events will take shape depends on your belief and spiritual endurance.
1. Wait and Be Ready for Change
People change, and business life oscillates between ups and downs. This is a fact that even the most successful people cannot control. They, too, sometimes found themselves pushed out of business. Their companies went bankrupt. But unlike ordinary people, they continued to believe that they were equipped to deal with change and could do something positive.
In other words, they’ve always been ready for change, and so can you…
If you don’t have the ability to naturally foresee change, take time to do it once a week or every few weeks and list the changes you’re likely to experience in your life. The point of this recommendation is not to predict with absolute accuracy every change you will encounter. More than that, it will keep your mind open to the idea of change and sharpen your ability to recognize and respond to change that is already coming. Even if none of the events you listed happen, anticipating and preparing for change will give you a greater sense of dominance over your future.
2. Focus on Your Freedoms, Not Your Limits
Since our youth we have been ingrained in the idea that life is not fair to some. This understanding is the voice of helplessness, anxiety and passive inertia. While it is true that sometimes we have limited opportunities to prevent bad events from happening, we are completely free to choose our reactions to these events.
As you prepare the list we talked about in step one, also mention positive ways to act and react to each change. You will be truly amazed when you realize how much control you actually have in the face of seemingly uncontrollable situations.
3. Recode Yourself
This will perhaps be the most difficult proposition because it requires radically changing the way of thinking that you have been accustomed to throughout your life. Over time, we all develop mental patterns that are ingrained in our minds and affect how we feel and react to events. These templates go so far as to decide what to do and how to talk under different circumstances.
You need to remove and re-encode these templates to be successful.
Here’s how to do this hard work: remember a difficult time you’ve been through recently. What was keeping you from reacting more effectively and getting through the situation more easily at that time? When you find it, write it down and call it bad luck.
Now consider the scenario where you wish you had acted like this, to replace it with your bad luck. Code that scenario, just like a computer program codes, starting with its finest processes.
Keep your notes where you can reach them and work on them again when you feel strong stress and anxiety in similar circumstances. Compare your current thoughts with those written in your notes as you study. This way, you can be honest with yourself and improve your grades even more.
If you repeat this regularly, you will find that your old way of thinking has changed over time and you have actually managed to code your brain.
4. Let Yourself Negative Suggestion
One of the biggest steps in managing stress and anxiety will be to stop talking to yourself with negative content. The more you think about negative ideas, the more power you give them.
Most of our negative ideas are just ideas; it is not real.
When you start believing the pessimistic and negative ideas your inner voice suggests, it’s time to stop and take note of them. Really stop whatever you are doing and write down the pessimistic thoughts on a piece of paper. In this way, you will create a moment that slows down the negative momentum of your thoughts and you will be able to assess their reality with a clearer and more rational mind.
You’ll find that your statements using words like “never” “worst” or “never” are not true. If they still seem like they match the facts even after you write them down and review them, take them to someone else, like a trusted friend, and see if they agree. Eventually the truth will come out.
Feeling that something never happened or happened all the time is actually your brain’s natural magnification of the perceived frequency or severity of an event to protect you from threats. Being able to define your thoughts as mere thoughts and distinguish them from reality will help you get rid of the circle of negativity and anxiety and move you towards a positive perspective.
5. Calculate Your Satisfaction
It’s not just the right thing to think about what you’re happy with; It is also a proven fact that it reduces anxiety. Feeling contentment reduces the level of cortisol, known as the stress hormone, by about 23%.
A University of California Davis study found that people who commit to daily satisfaction have improved mood, increased energy, and significantly less anxiety due to reduced cortisol levels.
Extreme anxiety and success are two opposite conditions. Whenever you experience stress or anxiety that limits your performance, try the steps above to regain control.